No matter how careful the parents are, divorce is difficult on children. Whatever the reasons for divorce, Arizona parents will almost always prioritize the needs of their children. A child-centered divorce is almost the same as any other divorce, however, measures are taken to ensure children are top priority.
What makes a child-centered divorce?
A child-centered divorce will always prioritize the needs of each child. This usually means maintaining peace in front of the children and not exposing them to the tougher parts of the divorce process, such as heated disagreements.
Parents that want a child-centered divorce will oftentimes stay out of the court as much as possible. Divorces that take place mostly in courtrooms can unintentionally pit the parents together and set up a win/lose framework. Instead, parents will try to handle things in mediation and go into the courtroom only to finalize the smallest details.
How to prioritize the needs of your children
Your children may seem like they are okay, but divorce is still a lot for them to process. Sometimes, your children might be acting out and misbehaving more than normal because they are having difficulty coping with the significant changes in their lives. No matter how your children are acting, make efforts to provide them with the necessary supports to overcome and heal.
It’s important to reinforce your relationship with the children during this time, both individually and jointly. Spend time with them and ensure them that you both still love them.
Take your time within reason
It’ll take time for your children to truly process the changes that are happening, depending on their age. It’s important not to rush through the divorce to give them the time they need to process the changes. At the same time, it’s important to not put the divorce proceedings on hold too long because being in limbo can be damaging to your children.
In addition to being emotionally available to your children, consider getting them into therapy or doing joint therapy sessions. Therapy can help set the foundations for healthy co-parenting after the divorce is finalized.